Many of us are trapped in the "too busy" cycle; the hustle, the grind, nonstop until you drop mentality. Working with self-proclaimed busy bees and workaholics whose mental health, physical wellbeing and relationships are affected by their work ethics, has given me great insight into the stories we tell ourselves and the myth about what being too busy really means.
Because it comes as no surprise being too busy has actually a deeper meaning. Let's find out, shall we?
Being busy is seen as a badge of honour and “the hustle” is widely promoted as a valid strategy for success. In addition, it is also culturally widely accepted that being too busy is a valid excuse not to show up or be present at all. Being chronically too busy can lead to too much stress, which will affect our health and relationships. And we all know by now stress can kill.
So why do we choose to stay too busy if it is a pattern that can be resolved?
These are the 4 most common reasons why you keep yourself under the busy spell:
Reason number 1 - fear of mission out
If you are always running around, saying yes to too many things and feeling flustered as more things land on your desk... You WILL MISS OUT on the important things! That is just a fact. You will forget yet another birthday or anniversary. That meeting with that investor you were supposed to organize. Or the school play you PROMISED you would make it to this time around.
Yet the Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO), is real for many of us, perhaps even for you. And this is often the biggest trap you can find yourself in. The Fear Of Missing Out is causing you to miss out on things that truly matter to you, such as quality time with yourself, loved ones and friends. Or, more importantly, a deeper connection with life itself, a sense of fulfilment and the expression of your soul path. Which brings me to point number two.
reason number 2 - you are overwhelmed
We live in a day and age where there is an abundance of options available to us. But because there is so much choice, it is, in fact, hard to choose! This information overload from different social media platforms to advertisements or even the options of hummus and olives at your local shop will be amplified if you are experiencing a real fear of missing out, as I mentioned with number 1.
As we are already too busy because of FOMO, it can create a lot of turmoil inside with what I call “system overload”. Too much choice will lead to you feeling overwhelmed. Some if not all the time!
Susanne Grant is an Award-winning Work-Life Balance Integration Expert, Intuitive Business Coach & Consultant and International Bestselling Author of the book “Drop The MF Struggle”. She helps organisations reduce stress-related absence costs, increase job satisfaction and performance.